Here I come again with another
rant. I am ranting a lot these days, I know! But then ranting and I go hand in
hand. Anyway, it is one of my specialties. I come as a package. So yea, the
other day I heard from a person who knows me at work that I have a lot of
attitude. That came as a surprise because I am the type of person who likes to
stay away from drama simply because I don’t have time for that. So, out of
curiosity I asked this person, “How do you say that I have attitude problem?” She
said ask everyone in office you will know. Why would I do that? I ignored.
After 2 days, this person came to me again and asked did you find why? I told
her that I have better things to do. “See, this is exactly what I meant when I
said you have attitude problem” I honestly had better things to do and I always
have better things to do than to try and understand why people I don’t talk to
or a complete stranger to me think I have an issue with my attitude. This
person realized that I am not going to find it myself and told me that people
in general think I have an attitude problem because I don’t talk to anyone.
Well, now that is something. My office has close 700 employees imagine talking
to everyone and getting to know about every single person. Won’t a smile or hi
do? No was the answer.
But then I have had enough, I
spoke to few people only to get shocking questions like “ohh, that’s nice. So
do you stay with this guy everytime you go to Bangalore?” or “Have you had sex
before?” or “Do you have a boyfriend?” Well what concerns you? I am talking to
you as a colleague and I am least bothered about your personal life. I might
seem to talk a lot but only to people I know well. There are people who know
every shit I do everyday and there are people to whom I am a total stranger but
I have the right to choose the people I would let into my life. I don’t know if
I get stuck with weirdos or I have this great power of attracting idiots. Once
a person asked me, “You are 27!! Why aren’t you married yet?” I answered her
that I am a lesbian and that I am not able to find a girl, plus it is illegal
in India so I might have to settle in a different country for which I don’t
have funds right now. She laughed. I thought, “What if I am serious?” I smiled.
But I have a question why does everything come down to marriage? What if I am
really very self-obsessed that I am happy with myself? Why should a girl get
married at 23 or 24 and a guy can live a happy life until 31 or 32? I think we
are in a century where girls can live life the way they want to and age doesn’t
really matter. Coming to speak of marriage, it is an individual’s choice. I can
understand old aunties throwing this question on my face everytime I go to some
wedding reception or party(which I have stopped these days) but even the girls
who are of my age are more worried than I am because I might not get the “prospective”
match.
Coming back to attitude, please
don’t judge a person. You have no rights to judge a person. I don’t judge you
so you don’t judge me. Simple! Many people after talking to me find me
otherwise so understand that everyone have their own way of dealing with others
and making friends. Few like me might be very choosy or will take time.
Marriage is an individual’s personal choice and there is no reason to pry in a
person’s life. Eventually, everyone will
get married and few might choose to be happy with the self-obsessed self! It is
their choice, really. So please mind your own business.
Very well written. I have written something on similar lines on my blog pots called 5 annoying questions.
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Thank you Nima. :) I will surely visit your blog.
DeleteI have read somewhere 'people ask your problem to make them self happy that they do have it'
ReplyDeleteand if everybody around us has attitude problem and the one with good attitude will be 'odd-man-out' :)
btw, well said.
hehe true! Thank you for taking time out to read my blog.
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